I think that when it comes
to stopping a conflict, I’m a work in progress…I do find myself less likely to start
a conflict, but I can drag it on once it has begun. I am naturally a defensive
person, but I’m starting to realize that I should be open to constructive
criticism on how to make myself a better person. But I do think before I speak,
which I have learned because of negative situations where I blurted out an
insulting statement that has broken relationships. It’s easy to advise someone,
“Think before you speak”, I believe that this statement is used often for a
reason. When you feel yourself getting into an argument or conflict, think
about the line you don’t want to cross and what you would like to get out of
this (an apology, a new place in the relationship, etc.) I find that to be
helpful, and when I don’t do that I try and continue to listen but I also start
an inner dialogue in my head to remain calm and to be constructive versus
destructive. I have found that people are more receptive when the volume of
your voice is low and the tone is natural, and you are remaining calm. But
listening is always helpful, and being mindful is key.
Hey HappyGoLucky,
ReplyDeleteI hear where you're at with being involved in conflicts. When they come up it is sometimes difficult to let them go, but its totally necessary for moving on with the relationship. I like your key statement 'think before you speak' I think it's key for dealing with conflict. When we are most destructive in our relationships we are usually in the 'heat of the moment' and not thinking about what we are saying to the other person. Remaining calm, keeping a normal voice and listening are some of the easiest ways to avoid or handle conflict well.
This was good - thanks for posting, Kenzie Marie