Week 3 Post 1

--> If someone had asked me what type of orientation I favored over another before I met my fiancé, I would have definitely said a self-centered orientation. But in order for our relationship to grow and thrive, and disagreements happen the closer you become, I had to change that. I now have to have a relationship-centered orientation and learn the important tool of compromise. When I keep that in mind, I find that the outcomes come about quicker and without hurtful words. But I know that there are exceptions when I lose site of that, or he does, and we think about ourselves. But apart from him, I still try to be relationship-centered, but with friends and family I can feel more defensive and self-centered orientation. That is something I need to work on because life is too short for petty fights that take away from the relationship. I know that if I did that more, I would find those disagreements to help strengthen bonds instead of damaging them.