Week 11 Post 2

When have false attributions you have made about another exacerbated a conflict situation?  Have there been times when making accurate attributions about the other has helped you?

I definitely do make mistakes and have false attributions about others, but I think I'm getting better. I would tend to blame everyone else for mistakes and fights, and fail to see my own shortcomings. This would lead to long and drawn out conflicts that would never truly be resolved. That was when I was extremely immature and would not want to admit that I was doing something wrong or not wise. Now I feel like I can steer clear of that and be able to do more accurate attributions than false. But there are times when I make accurate attributions and I can end up learning something new about someone or they can teach me a skill, etc. When I know someone is good and can lead me in the right direction, I like to get their advice or learn how they cope with certain situations. I hope that if someone saw that in me that they would feel the same way and want to grow.

Week 11 Post 1

After searching the terms forgiveness, reconciliation and revenge, the results for revenge were so much higher that it actually kind of shocked me. I do think that it was increased a bit more because there is a show titled "Revenge" so that was mixed in there, but a lot of the time I feel like our society is so focused on getting revenge. But having the ability to forgive someone and reconcile, and that's not saying you're weak or that your relationship would be the same, is so much more fulfilling that just seeking out to get revenge on someone. Revenge is also probably easier to most people than to work through an issue and truly let it go and move on, which is sad because if they were to do that instead of being vindictive then their lives would prove to be much more rewarding. There were a lot of "revenge ideas" for people who have wronged you when I searched, and it wasn't uplifting. For forgiveness and reconciliation it was more helpful links on how to achieve it. I guess I worry that not enough people are searching those two terms and going more for revenge, which is why there can be so much violence in our world.