Saturday, September 8, 2012
Week 3 Post 3
What I wanted to pull out of the text to discuss and relate to my life is the idea of avoiding early compromise. The first sentence jumped out at me and stated, "All too often, conflicting parties are too quick to compromise, when greater effort would produce a solution that completely satisfies both of them" (56). While some close to me might disagree, I think that sometimes I do this too often. It's not my go-to resolution for conflicts, but it does bother me when I do do it. And I often wonder, "Is this even helping the situation if I just try and smooth it over now?" There are instances where, yes, it should be dropped but then there are other cases where if I do drop it it might bring in resentment, etc. People need to speak up about what they want in life, because life is too short to not express how you truly feel. I know so many people who gunny-sack, or store up emotions until they explode, and it's not beneficial for anyone. I have a friend who says that she and her boyfriend never fight or argue (which I don't buy) and I always think that that means that she's putting away anger until one day she's going to freak out. I don't say this to her because if she wants to paint her relationship that way, that's her deal, not mine. But I wouldn't think of her relationship any less if she was honest with me, because I think the more you're with someone the more you could disagree. All in all, be honest and speak up, and truly resolve issues before they become something bigger.
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ReplyDeleteThank you so much for a very meaningful post. I completely relate to what you illustrated regarding not storing up your emotions and hiding your feelings from other people. Just earlier today I was attending sorority preference day and I was at one of my top two houses and the girl I met at the house told me how her father passed away to cancer a few years prior. It was the most heartfelt, tear-jerking things I have ever heard because she explained how when she first joined the sorority house she would bottle up her feelings and did not want to come across as needy so she kept her feelings of loss to herself. Little by little as she bonded with her sorority sisters she learned that they were always there for her when she needed them and that she could talk to them about anything, as they became her home away from home. It is definitely an important lesson to learn because people are in fact kind and down to earth and if you are upset about something you should never feel the need to keep your thoughts to yourself because that can at times I believe make someone even more depressed. People you trust are there for you when you need it because they love you. Great post!