Week 9 Post 2

This question really made me think back to when I used to be a person who (when really upset) would yell and use extremely defensive behavior when in a fight…I’m happy that now when I am in a fight with someone, 99% of the time I am able to stay calm. Sure, there might be a more harsh tone, but for the most part I am calm. I find that when I yell, I end up feeling really badly about it and regret it, so I have cut that out of my conflict style. When I bottle up emotions, that’s when the anger builds up and I find remaining calm to be more challenging. I have to be mindful and be able to think ahead to what I’m going to say while still listening to the other person. It’s not easy, but it is definitely worth it in the end because the respect is still there between me and the other person. Plus, remaining calm while someone else is blowing up and yelling maintains your own dignity and they usually realize that the yelling didn’t help the situation in the slightest