A concept that stood out to me in this week’s reading was
the idea of victimization, and how people can use that to be manipulative. I am
a firm believer in there is your side, their side, and the truth. I have known
many people in my life who have stuck to their own side, and played the victim
card. While there are some who are truly victims of abuse (physical or mental),
it really bothers me when some try and wrongfully make themselves the victims.
If you are at fault, own it and I guarantee there will be more respect for you
in the end…but when someone plays the “whoa is me” angle over and over again,
those around them begin to see it and their validity is gone. Some honestly
might even believe they are wronged because they are so deep into a
self-centered orientation, which makes it harder to break through to.
Victimization is an interesting concept. People oftentimes try and play the victim card to better themselves, and it annoys me as well. I agree with you about their being the truth, your side and their side. You must always hear from both sides of an issue before making a judgement.
ReplyDeleteMy friend recently got full custody of her baby from the father. When I told one of my coworkers she said she didn’t agree with that, and that a father shouldn’t be kept from his daughter. However, a week later, that same coworker went up to me and said she was on the mother’s side after hearing her side of the story. She changed her view after hearing it, which is a perfect example of gathering enough intel to make an informed judgement.