Chapter 16 Post 1

I think that people have such negative views of conflict because of past experiences when they didn’t know how to have constructive arguments and would just end up getting angry and frustrated…most of the time relationships end because of arguments or going over the same disagreement over and over again and getting no resolution that will get them to the same goal.  Honestly, after learning more about conflict after this class I do fear it less. Sure, I make the same mistakes sometimes but I have more of an understanding as to why I do those things or choose those words, which is helpful for everyone involved. I feel like it’s that way with everything, the more you know about a topic the less you’re afraid to speak up on it and you feel more powerful/knowledgeable. Everyone thinks fights or arguments are bad and mean that you have a unhealthy relationship, when in actuality you can disagree and really grow together instead of apart…but it takes effort and understanding.